HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS ADVICE. BEST DATING TIPS
Tips for Cultivating Positive Youth–Parent Connections
Getting along with your parents can sometimes feel like a real challenge. You may feel like they do not understand you, or that they are getting on your case about almost everything. The truth is your parents are an important part of your life and building a positive relationship with them can have a positive impact on your mental health and feelings of fulfilment.
It is important to understand that your parents are human just like you. They have their own thoughts, feelings, and experiences that shape who they are and how they parent. They have faced their own challenges – many of which you may not even know of. Sometimes they might make mistakes, just like humans do.
Talk About It.
To help improve your relationship with your parents, focusing on communication may be a great first step. When you are feeling frustrated or upset, talk to them calmly and respectfully about what is bothering you. Use “I” statements to express your own feelings and avoid the blaming game. For example, instead of saying “You never listen to me,” try saying “I feel like you don’t always hear me out.”
It can also be helpful to try to see things from your parents’ point of view. They might have concerns or worries that you are not aware of, or they might have had similar experiences when they were your age. Take a step in their shoes and see what you can gain by listening to what they have to say. Even if you do not agree with them, showing that you are willing to listen can strengthen the relationship.
Remember the Love.
Another thing to keep in mind is that your parents are most likely your biggest supporters. Most parents want to see you succeed and be happy. Sometimes it might not seem like it, but they are doing what they think is best for you. So when they give you advice or set expectations, try to remember that it is usually from a place of love. If your parents are not acting from a place of love, such as being neglectful or abusive (physical, emotional, mental, or sexual), you could reach out to an adult you trust and speak about what is going on.
Speak what you Need.
Of course, there are times when you might feel like your parents are being unfair. In those situations, it is okay to express your disagreement and ask for a compromise. It is equally as important to do so in a respectful and constructive way. Instead of arguing or getting defensive, try to stay calm while engaging in conversation.
Another important part is to take care of your own mental health when dealing with challenging situations at home. If you are feeling overwhelmed or stressed, try practicing some self-care techniques like meditation, deep breathing, or taking a break to do something you enjoy. Talking to a trusted friend or a mental health professional can also be helpful.
At the end of the day, building a positive relationship with your parents takes time and effort. But it is worth it. Not only can it improve your mental health and well-being, but it can also strengthen your support system and help you navigate the ups and downs of life. Relationships are a two-way street, so both you and your parents will need to meet half way. Remember to communicate openly and respectfully, try to see things from their perspective, and take care of yourself along the way.
Written by Fola Veritas (with Deep Mind Squared)